It Was Time for a Change
The pharmaceutical drugs had been working wonders for a long time. They enabled me to have sex. And given that I had no success in finding an actual solution to my problems, I was reluctantly OK popping a pill before having sex. But it had made me complacent about solving erectile dysfunction and my libido problems. The issues had slipped to the back of my mind.
That was until the moment the drugs stopped working. My use of these drugs had gotten to the point where my body had built resistance towards them – the effect was gone. This was the wake-up call.
It was time for a change. It was time to solve my problems once and for all. I didn’t want any more temporary patches or quick fixes. I wanted and needed to find a sustainable long-term solution. I was desperate to solve – permanently – what was wrong with me.
I decided to leave the pharmaceuticals behind for good. It was time to throw them away and change the course of my journey. It was back to the drawing board. It was ground zero. I decided that this was it. I made it my number one priority in life to overcome my life-zapping problems of erectile dysfunction and a non-existent libido. And I was going to try to solve these problems for good.
I decided to be painstakingly meticulous, methodical and to record everything I did. I thought if I was organized and systematic enough, if I discarded things that didn’t work and pursued those that seemed to have potential, I might have a chance to get to the bottom of this. I might then possible be able to figure out exactly what the cause of my sexual problems were.
Needless to say, I was unhappy about having to deal with these problems – I wish they weren’t there – yet I was also strangely excited.
I started by drawing a map of anything I could think of that could possibly cause these sexual problems. Bad diet, no sleep, stress, smoking, etc. Next step was to to try to understand each of these possible factors in detail, and to try to figure out the underlying reasons for how and why they could cause erectile dysfunction and libido problems. After that, I wanted to understand to what extent these potential factors could be applicable to me and my situation. If I could obtain that knowledge, if I could better understand my situation and the likely reasons for why I was experiencing these sexual problems, I thought I might be able to put in place changes or remedies to try to rectify the problems.
After I was happy with the roadmap, it was time to roll up the sleeves and get down to business. I was time to experiment, try, fail and learn. I started experimenting systematically – I kept track of exactly what I did, kept score, measured progress and failures. I had a set of blood tests taken, checked my testosterone, I even had my sperm count and sperm motility checked. I spoke to doctors, discussed the results and exchanged ideas of what the cause or causes could be. I went back to online erectile dysfunction and libido discussion forums. I absorbed information like a sponge.
I started making changes to how I lived my life. I changed my habits. One by one.
I changed the time I went to bed and I tried to sleep more. I made a very conscious effort to not get stressed in stressful situations and to relax more. I changed my diet around. From a normal western diet I changed to vegetarian, then vegan, then to a meat based diet, then back again to vegetarian, then to a Palaeolithic diet, then to a mix of Palaeolithic and vegan. I tried out a multitude of nutritional supplements. I experimented with both aerobic and anaerobic exercises, tried periods of no exercise and periods of heavy interval or endurance training.
I experimented with a plethora of herbal remedies and other sexual health supplements, in different doses, different combinations, different quality and different strength. I tried using these supplements on a daily basis and I tried taking them right before sex.
I experimented with different approaches to pornography, masturbation and sex. I tried penis exercises such as jelquing and Kegel exercises. I massaged my testicles. I meditated. I experimented with sunlight exposure, from getting none to being in the sun for long periods of time. I tried to understand how my mental state and social happiness was impacting my sexual problems.
I went back and forth, went down paths I thought were going to lead me to the answer, but hit dead ends. I pulled my hear out in frustration, then celebrated small victories. Occasionally I thought I had found a solution, just to be left heartbroken. I spent weeks on promising detours that turned out to be roads to nowhere.
But bit by bit, I found actions that yielded small positive results, at least temporarily. I discovered lifestyle changes that seemed to increase my sex drive and improve erectile functioning. I focused extra hard on the actions that produced slivers of hope. I zoomed in on them, tried to find out why they worked and then tried to do more of exactly what worked. There was progress. I was able to replicate positive outcomes.
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