There is something called ‘post-coital dysphoria’.
It means sadness after sex. Or rather..
Even if sex is consensual, wanted and experienced as pleasurable, some people (women and men) feel sad after the sex is over.
Some even have an overwhelming desire to cry.
This condition has been fairly well studied among women in the past. But not among men.
But now there is also a comprehensive study done on this condition among men. It was recently published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy.
This study included more than 1,200 sexually active men from 78 different countries.
What did the study find?
It found that the condition of post-coital dysphoria in men mirrored that in women.
41% of men had experienced post-coital dysphoria at least once in their life.
And 20% said they had experienced it in the last month.
That is a big number! If we apply this to all men worldwide, that means about 800 million men have felt sadness after sex in the last month.
The men described the post-coital dysphoria as a strong sense of self-loathing, a feeling of shame, as well as depressive episodes. Some men also reported crying spells.
The researches found that current psychological distress was strongly predictive of post-coital dysphoria. Indicating that men experiencing stress, anxiety, depression, etc., are more likely to also suffer from post-coital dysphoria.
This makes me think that there is something wrong with how we live our lives. That this modern world is too conducive to stress and mental issues. And that perhaps our expectations to sex are not necessarily always healthy.
To read the full article, please go here.