Prologue - My Experience
This journey started with shock and disbelief several years ago. I was naked in bed with a woman. But I couldn’t get it up. I was simply not able to get an erection.
I thought and hoped it was a one-time event.
But it kept on happening again and again.
I was in my 20’s and I had no idea why my penis wouldn’t get hard. It didn’t make any sense to me that I should have to deal with this.
Wasn’t this something that happened to old people?
I therefore wanted to try to understand what was happening to me. I wanted to understand why I couldn’t get erections anymore when I was with a woman.
I wanted to understand exactly why I was struggling with erectile dysfunction.
And if I could arm myself with this knowledge, I was hoping to find a solution to my problems.
This quest for a solution took me through despair, exhaustion, glimmers of hope, resignation, anger, belief and may other emotions.
The bad news: It took more than 10 years to find a solution.
But the good news is that I found a solution in the end.
Did Cavemen Struggle With ED And A Tepid Libido..?
Maybe. Maybe not. I don’t think anyone has a good answer.
Why is that?
We’ll get there shortly. But let’s first think about sex in the animal kingdom for a minute:
Most species engage in sexual activities only when it’s time to procreate.
It is in fact very uncommon in the animal kingdom to engage in recreational sex. Recreational sex is only known among a few species such as the modern human being, bonobo monkeys, dolphins and a few others.
Is this frequent sex counter to our nature? Are our bodies designed for this?
What about early human beings, did they have frequent recreational sex?
If we could find an answer to this, we may understand what a healthy level of recreational sex is. Whether it’s once a week. Or once a month. Or some other frequency.
Biologically, our bodies today are very similar to those of human beings 100,000 years ago, so it is probably fair to assume that our natural tendencies to sex should be similar now and then.
We do believe, based on evidence of erotic statues, cave carvings, and also mating among different subspecies of humans, that earlier versions of us did engage in some recreational sex.
However, we don’t know how often. Did they for instance have sex every week?
If we look at some of our closest relatives for clues, we don’t really get a lot smarter. In fact, we find very different sexual behavior.
Chimpanzees, for instance, one of our closest relatives, do not engage in recreational sex. They only have sex to procreate.
Bonobos on the other hand, another close relative to us, have very frequent recreational sex, and individuals even have sex with either gender.
Let’s do a thought experiment:
Let’s pretend for a minute that our bodies are not designed for sex every week. Let’s assume that our bodies are designed for sex only once a month.
If that were the case, is it any wonder why many men struggle with performing sexually several times a week? Is it any any wonder then, that many men struggle getting erections if they are not supposed to get frequent erections?
Similarly, if we are designed for infrequent sex, is it so strange that many men have a low libido?
Also, the lifespan of humans as hunters and gatherers was significantly lower than that of the modern human beings.
We don’t exactly know what the average lifespan was for prehistoric humans, but we believe it was 30-40 years.
If our bodies were only ‘supposed’ to live to about 40, it is probably fair to assume that we were ‘supposed’ to procreate much earlier than 40. Back then, we probably had babies in our teens and early 20’s.
Meaning that our bodies needed to function well sexually in our teens and early 20’s. Which again means that these still are our peak sexual years.
So if our bodies have not changed much since these times, could this partly explain why older men today have problems with the ‘reproductive’ activities?
It’s a fair question, no?
Lets move on and take a look at how our lives have changed in modern times.
Our Lives Are Not To Recognize..!
Today, many modern human beings wake up early in the morning to travel to work or to school. When the alarm goes off, we have normally slept less than what we did 100,000 years ago, or even 50 years ago.
We will also probably not take any naps during the day to make up for any sleep deficit. Sleep, rest and downtime are often not prioritized. We operate on a lot less sleep today than we used to.
To get to work or school, we often commute on a packed subway, train or bus, or we may be in a car in heavy traffic. Hence, the beginning of our day is often filled with stress. We then often take the same stressful route home.
Our ancestors didn’t commute.
Throughout the day, we also spend a lot of time sitting down. Studies have shown that many of us sit on our butts for as much as 9 hours every day.
This sedentary lifestyle is not a healthy thing, and there is even a term for this called ‘sitting disease’.
Our forefathers sat significantly less on their butts.
The modern human is often so busy with life that he or she hardly exercises or plays.
In fact, many people don’t do any exercise or physical activity at all.
Our distant ancestors lived a life that was significantly more active than ours.
When is the last time you climbed a tree?
We spend several hours staring at a bright computer screen while at work or in school. When we come home, we often spend hours staring at a big TV screen.
We have mobile phones in our pockets and we often put them to our head to chat. We have wireless internet at home. And there is wireless internet almost anywhere we go.
Our environment is filled with electronics and radiation.
Our ancestors didn’t swipe right on the mobile nor surf the web.
We modern people also spend most of our time, or a significant part of it, inside buildings.
We don’t see many trees, mountains, rivers or much nature. Many of us hardly get any sun exposure anymore.
Our distant relatives spent most of the day outside in free nature and probably cherished the sun.
We live in large cities full of vehicles and buildings and people.
Vehicles burn fuel to move, buildings need energy for heating and to power their appliances, factories emit smoke and waste, and power plants do the same.
As a result, we have pollution and reduced air and water quality.
Our relatives had little pollution other than the smoke from the campfire.
At work or in school, there is often significant pressure to perform and deliver.
The day is often filled with stress, intense work, lack of control of one’s destiny, unfair interpersonal politics, etc.
There were probably also conflicts within the ancient tribe, and among tribes. But was the stress-level persistent and constant as it is for many of us today?
My guess is that life back then was more relaxed.
What about our foods?
We eat processed foods, foods rich in calories but poor in nutrition, fast food, sweets and candy, drink alcohol and use various forms of pharmaceutical and recreational drugs.
Our ancestors ate only free range, organic, super-fresh, unprocessed, un-tampered-with, high quality foods.
Our social lives have also changed dramatically.
We often don’t socialize with people around us, in the streets, on the subway, or in the apartment building. We live busy and important lives.
Today, there is no time to socialize around the campfire and just relax. Or chill under a tree while digesting today’s meal. Or just pluck somebody’s fur.
The average modern male also watches porn and masturbates.
Pornography commoditizes sex to something accessible anytime and anywhere. Porn has also become extremely realistic and provides the watcher with ultimate control and novelty.
It reduces sex from something scarce and beautiful to something easy and cheap, sometimes causing sexual exhaustion and addiction.
Back in the days, there were erotic cave paintings, but they hardly compare to the extreme virtual experiences available today.
Our lives today have become very different to the lives of people before us. There have been remarkable transformations, making life now hardly recognizable to life back then.
I believe so. Actually I am convinced.
In fact, I consider myself living proof that it is possible to regain sexual functions by changing one’s lifestyle to become more like that of our ancestors’.
But by slowly changing the way I lived my life to try to get back to the basics, by listening to my body, by giving it what it needs, by taking away ‘things’ that are not good, and by being nice to my body and mind, I have experienced tremendous results.
My body has gotten back into balance.
I have beaten erectile dysfunction.
I have gotten my libido back.
I have overcome my sexual health problems. I have reset my body.
My body is now happy and in balance and it works and functions optimally, or close to optimally.
The quality of my life has skyrocketed, and it is now as high as ever. I have regained sexual confidence, I feel like a man and I no longer have any worries or concerns when it comes to sex.
In this section, you will learn exactly which lifestyle changes I have made and then maintained, based on my decade-long experiment.
What do I mean when I say maintained? I mean that I still maintain them this very day.
And if this worked for me, it may very well work for you too.
I have presented these lifestyle changes in order of importance. Meaning, the change that is listed first had the largest impact, and the lifestyle change that is listed last had the least impact.
I want to state however, that making these lifestyle changes did not change my libido or erectile functioning the very next day.
The mind and body are part of a very sophisticated system, and it took some time for me to adjust and reverse the effects of my unhealthy habits.
Which is why I have also created a course for anyone who is interested in trying to overcome their sexual problems by following these principles. You find the course here.