How Do Orgasms Affect Erectile Dysfunction And Libido?
Have you ever gotten super tired and sluggish after having an orgasm? Most men do.
The reason is that you drain your sexual energy by having these frequent orgasms.
Frequent Orgasms Can Cause ED And Libido Problems
A healthy male body builds up desire for sex, or libido, throughout the day and the night. This goes on pretty much non-stop as long as there are no crucial deficiencies (nutritional, hormonal, etc.) in the body, and the body is being well maintained.
At the same time, you have probably experienced that libido normally also fluctuates, even during the same day. Sometimes it’s high, sometimes it’s low.
Why is that?
Your libido will typically decrease when your body and mind are not in balance. This can be caused by a poor diet, stress, low self-confidence, little sleep and many other factors.
And your libido will typically increase when your body is in balance.
Because at this point, your sexual desires have been satisfied and your body has now completed its reproductive task. At least for now.
You now enter what is called the refractory period. This is a period where you are typically unable to enjoy further sexual stimulation.
My Experience With Limiting Orgasms
The experience of an orgasm is normally very pleasurable, and it’s in fact one of the most enjoyable and intense sensations we can have (naturally). Therefore, many people seek these pleasurable orgasms frequently.
I was no exception. As a young adult and in my early 20’s, I would masturbate or have sex almost every day and I would always end it with an orgasm.
Even when I felt sexually exhausted, I would still masturbate or have sex, because the craving of the orgasm was so incredibly strong. I therefore often exhausted myself even further, and sometimes ended up completely sexually depleted.
When I started struggling with erectile dysfunction and an almost non-existent libido, I realized that after I had an ejaculatory orgasm, it would normally take me at least a day, but often more, before I would be interested in having sex again.
I then learned about the practice of limiting the frequency of ejaculatory orgasms in order to keep the body highly sexually charged.
This practice claimed that by not having these orgasms at all, or trying to limit them significantly, one should be able to get more energy, be more focused, have a stronger libido and generally feel more alive.
Although I was very sceptical at first and didn’t have much faith in it, I was still curious and wanted to give it a go.
I have to say that it was difficult to practice, because I had become almost addicted to the pleasurable sensations from having orgasms.
The effects were astonishing!
My libido became stronger and stronger as the days went by.
For me, to limit my ejaculatory orgasms was simply a game-changer.
So by retaining instead of flushing away all my hard-earned libido, I kept building it up.
Total abstinence is difficult, if not impossible.
This practice has served me so well, that I have practiced it ever since I learned about it.
I try to keep the frequency of ejaculatory orgasms to once every 4-6 weeks, or longer if I am able to. This keeps my sexual energy super-charged.
And you know what else is amazing about this?
In fact, by building up a very strong libido, you normally desire more sex, and may as a result end up having sex more frequently.
So how do you abstain from having ejaculatory orgasms?
Abstinence from ejaculatory orgasms can be practiced in three different ways:
- Not having orgasms or ejaculations
- Having ejaculations without orgasms
- Having orgasms without ejaculations
The first option is the easiest to practice and works well to accomplish the goal. The other two alternatives are for most men more difficult to practice.
You can practice the first option quite simply by stopping or slowing down sexual stimulation before you reach the point of the ejaculatory orgasm.
I have myself practiced this technique ever since I discovered it.
But how exactly do I do this?
When I have sex, I simply slow down when I come close to the point where I have a full ejaculatory orgasm.
I make sure I slow down enough, or even stop for a little (depending on how intense it is), so that I don’t cross the point of no return.
After a few seconds, when the intense sensations have subsided a little, I restart the stimulation.
And when I get close again to having an orgasm, I slow down or stop for a little again, and then after this I restart the stimulation again.
By doing this, I can have sex without having an ejaculatory orgasm.
Not only am I able to preserve and even build up my libido by doing this.
I am also able to prolong the pleasurable sensations from sex for longer than I otherwise would have. And I can have sex again and again.
Needless to say, by doing this I don’t get to the very peak of the sensations (which would be the ejaculatory orgasm) but I get very close, perhaps to 90% of the peak
But I get to go in and out of this intense zone several times. And for me, this is incredibly enjoyable.
And although I don’t get to go all the way to the peak, I get to experience these pleasurable sensations for a very long time. If fact, this way, I can have sex for as long as I want.
If I were to try to illustrate this, instead of this looking like one tall mountain top (the ejaculatory orgasm), it would look like many smaller tops that were far reaching but which were also a bit lower in altitude than the mountain top.
Let me explain..
I got too close to the orgasm before I stopped the stimulation. So I ended up ejaculating.
But I didn’t have an orgasm!
This was incredibly strange! I actually ejaculated a full load without having an orgasm.
So even though I ejaculated completely, my penis did not get super sensitive like it would have if I had an ejaculatory orgasm.
And because of that, I could continue having sex!
I ejaculated but I could still continue the sex. What a novel experience!
Although with a slight loss of sensation. Meaning, sex was still awesome, it was just slightly less amazing, perhaps by 10-15% or so.
I have now learned how to separate the two and utilize this technique from time to time. I will tell you why in a minute.
Here is how I practice the technique:
When I have sex, I proceed with sexual stimulation until I am getting very, very close to the point where I have an ejaculatory orgasm. I then slow down the stimulation but still continue (just at a slower pace).
If I can get close enough, I am able to ejaculate without having an orgasm.
The game is to get so close that my body triggers the release of sperm, but not yet the actual orgasm.
With training, this technique actually becomes very easy to master.
The reason why it is possible to continue sex after having this ejaculation (but no orgasm), is because my body has not triggered the same release of prolactin it would have, if I were to have an ejaculatory orgasm.
I therefore don’t experience the same level of fatigue, discomfort and loss of libido.
Why do I sometimes practice this technique?
Another reason is that it also helps to avoid experiencing vasocongestion (or “blueballs”), which sometimes happen to me when I don’t ejaculate during intense sexual stimulation.
And lastly, sometimes the woman (or man) you are with wants you to ejaculate. This technique is a good way to accomplish this.
Based on what I have learned from other men, it should also be possible to have an orgasm without ejaculating (number 3 above).
I have not been able to do this, so I cannot yet say how this would impact the process of building libido. I do however intend to explore this further in the future.
My 100 Day Experiment
I read a few accounts (in discussion forums) of men who had gone 100 days without masturbating or having sex.
So I decided to do something similar: I went 100 days without having an ejaculatory orgasm.
Yes you read right, 100 days.
And what happened to me during this period was mighty interesting.
First of all, I wanted to say that it was difficult. It was difficult because it was hard not to let go and indulge in the pleasurable full orgasm from time to time. Particularly when it had been a long time since last time.
It almost also drove me crazy because I would get so incredibly horny and my libido got so extremely intense, I hardly knew what to do with myself at times. In fact, it became a very serious distraction.
I almost imagined boning every attractive woman I passed in the streets, in the office, on the subway and everywhere else.
I would think about sex way too often, I would practically always get erections when I thought about sex, and I would sometimes get spontaneous erections out of nowhere. I would basically be non-stop horny.
In addition, my energy levels would be sky-high, my mental focus would be razor sharp, my confidence would be almost bulletproof, and I would feel just fantastic.
I would also wake up earlier in the morning as it seemed I needed less sleep.
Which begs the question:
Why would I feel such an increased level of energy, being super confident, having a razor-sharp focus and seemingly needing less sleep during this experiment?
One theory is that the more time has passed since last time you have had an orgasm, the more your genes push you to procreate.
Your genes are basically whispering: ‘It has been too long since last time you tried to pass us on to a new body – do it now!’.
And in order to push you towards procreation, you become more alert, get more energy, become more confident, get a stronger libido, etc., and therefore the likelihood of finding and impregnating a woman is increased.
Limiting The Frequency Of Orgasms Was Not My Idea!
My personal discoveries are by no means novel or ground-breaking.
The discipline of limiting ejaculatory orgasms has already been practiced for thousands of years.
According to the eastern philosophy of Tao, formulated over centuries ago, a man can preserve and retain his semen in order to enhance his strength, health and longevity.
This ‘retention of the semen’ is one of the basic principles of Taoist sexual practice.
Taoist sexual practice believes that men that have ejaculatory orgasms infrequently will grow strong, have a clearer mind, will have a stronger sexual appetite, will avoid premature ageing, diseases, and general fatigue.
Ayurveda, the practice of health and longevity which dates back thousands of years from ancient India, also has similar principals regarding semen retention. It practices that orgasms can deplete the body and limit the energy levels you can achieve.
As do Tantric practices. People following Tantric principles advocate retention of sperm as not only a means for conserving energy, but also increasing sexual pleasure through having more sexual energy.
Scientific Support For Limiting Frequency Of Ejaculatory Orgasms
A significant body of scientific research has shown that having frequent orgasms may trigger multiple changes in the brain.
For instance, in the brains of rats that have ejaculated frequently (sexually exhausted rats), scientists have measured the following changes:
- Reduced number of androgen receptors
- Increased number of estrogen receptors
- Increases in opioids that block libido
In these rats, one brain change took place after only one ejaculation! The change was that certain libido-decreasing opioids rose right away. And when these opioids increase, the rat’s libido decreases.
Several other studies on humans have demonstrated that abstinence from ejaculations does produce elevated levels of testosterone.
And a different point..
Scientific analysis has also shown semen to be an extraordinary nutritious liquid and generally far richer than any regular nutritional supplement you can buy at a health store.
When you ejaculate, you are parting with some of your body’s most valuable nutrients.
It takes the body effort and time to replenish these nutrients, which may be another argument for not ejaculating too often.
It is also reported that when ejaculation frequency exceeds the capacity of the body to fully replenish semen, men can experience chronic fatigue, loss of focus, irritability, etc.
In fact, the rate of human sperm production is among the lowest of all mammals, therefore frequent ejaculation will normally rapidly deplete available sperm.
According to research, a young man who ejaculates every third day would not deplete sperm supplies, meaning that ejaculating every third day will keep a young man ‘topped up’ with sperm.
However this ability changes with age, as older men produce less sperm. Therefore, for older men, the number of days between ejaculations will be significantly higher.
In a study where men ejaculated an average of 2.4 times a day over ten days, their sperm output remained below pre-depletion levels for more than five months.
Therefore, short burst of ejaculating too frequently can also have long-lasting consequences.
Another study on humans have shown that the duration of abstinence had a statistically significant positive influence on sperm concentration and volume.
However, it also had a statistically significant negative influence on sperm motility and vitality.
My experience with limiting the frequency of ejaculatory orgasms has only been positive.
In fact, of all the ways I have changed my life in order to try to overcome erectile dysfunction and a weak libido, of all the experimentation I have done, of all the ways I have tried to listen to and tune into my body and mind..
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