It took me more than a decade to overcome erectile dysfunction and an almost non-existent libido. But I did find a way out. Through almost countless hours of research and reading, meticulous experimentation, lots of patience and finally by making changes to the way I lived my life, I found a solution bit by bit. Or rather, what I found was a set of solutions.
These solutions literally gave me my life back. I was again enjoying life as I did before, I was able to have sex normally, and I no longer had any issues or negative thoughts when it came to sex. From being stressful and problematic, sex changed to become fun and easy. And it still is today.
But during this 10-year period, I was actually close to giving up sex. Sex was filled with frustrations and negative thoughts, and it got to a point where I just wanted to give it all up. In fact, I had periods where I was comfortable with not ever having sex again. It was almost a relief at that moment.
But I couldn’t get myself to give up, and instead embarked on a journey to solve my problems. Along the way, there were sleepless nights, confidence crashes, frustrations, but also small victories.
I have through these years learned quite a lot. I have learned a lot about myself, about how my body works, about health, about erectile dysfunction, libido, and sex. I have also learned how sexual problems can devastate happiness and suck energy out of me.
I have written this section as a step-by-step guide to myself. The guide tells me what I would do to overcome erectile dysfunction or libido problems – assuming that I had these problems for the first time.
By following this step-by-step plan, or program, I would be able to both remove unhealthy habits from my life as well as add healthy ones. If done properly, this should start the process of slowly re-balancing my body. It should make it run on the right fuels, be exposed to the right stimuli and start to slowly make it function better. It should provide an environment in which my body could thrive and reach its potential, instead of being subjected to abuse and distress.
I am very keen on sharing what I have learned with other men. I think it would be fantastic, if other men out there with similar problems to the ones I had, could learn from my experiences and overcome their own sexual health problems. Therefore, in this section called The Solution, I want to tell you and give you the knowledge about how I overcame erectile dysfunction and libido problems. And also how I would do it again, but do it much quicker.
How long it would take to re-balance the system is difficult to say. It’s possible that I could start regaining libido and erectile function after the fourth week of the program. But it could also take 4 months or more to get to this point. It would depend on how much damage I had already done to my body and also on how consistent and thorough I would be in applying the actions of the program.
Also, this step-by-step plan would not just be a plan to follow until I had initially overcome my problems. After I had gotten to the point where I had sufficiently re-balanced my body, I wouldn’t simply go back to my old life again. I wouldn’t discard my new habits and way of living, and revert to my old lifestyle. Instead, in order to avoid that these problems flare up again, I would continue to live by and maintain these healthy principles. By living this way, I would provide my body with a healthy environment so that it could have a chance to function optimally.
By maintaining this lifestyle, my body and mind could be in balance, and I could once and for all solve the problems of erectile dysfunction and a low libido. To run a check on whether this was working or not, I could revert to my old lifestyle for a little, and see what would happen.
What I do know from my decade-long process of overcoming these issues, is that I would probably only see great results if I were diligent and devoted. If I were not diligent and devoted, but rather took a haphazard approach with shortcuts, there is a high probability that the results would be disappointing.
Lastly, I wanted to say that in my struggles to overcome these problems, it was tremendously helpful for me to have an understanding partner. Sex is an activity that involves two people (or more), therefore it was very helpful to be able to lean on someone who wasn’t getting mad or upset. We could talk about things, set expectations and have a common understanding. This helped avoid a large degree of insecurity, anxiety, anger and disappointment. If I were facing these problems today, I would make it a priority to communicate very openly with my partner (if I had one).