During the first week I would do the following:
- Stop watching porn
- Stop masturbating
- Stop having sex
- Stop anything sexual
When I started struggling with erectile dysfunction and libido problems, I was doing all of the above. I was masturbating, watching porn and I was having sex (with the help of pharmaceutical drugs) very frequently. I would probably collectively do these things at least 5 days a week, and sometimes even multiple times a day. As a result, I was overloading my brain with sexual stimulation. And it turned out that this stimulation was simply too much for my brain to handle.
Because I did this too frequently, I was de-sensitizing my brain to sexual stimulation. My brain simply had so much of this stimulation that it became almost indifferent. Sex and naked women (real or virtual) became day-to-day, common things. What I did was to flush my brain with dopamine on a regular basis, and as a result the dopamine reward system in my brain became numbed. There was simply too much dopamine floating around in my brain, and therefore my dopamine receptors became exhausted and started to become less effective. After continued dopamine flooding, some dopamine receptors would even stop working.
I was also having sex with the help of pharmaceutical drugs. These drugs enabled me to have sex whenever I wanted. So even if my body was not ready for sex and was sexually exhausted and depleted, I could still have sex. This was not a good thing. Because I then kept on having sex even as my body was getting more and more worn out sexually. It didn’t get a chance to rest and recover and to get back into balance. As a result, the state of my sexual problems just got worse and worse.
One key lesson I learned from this, is that the less often I have sex (or experience sexual stimulation), the more intense it feels. Hence, by experiencing sexual stimulation every day, the sensations simply because weaker and weaker.
When I learned that too much sexual stimulation was likely to have a negative effect on my sexual well-being, I stopped these activities immediately. I was desperate to overcome my sexual problems and quit cold turkey. However, there was no immediate effect. It did take time for my brain and body to reset and for my dopamine receptors to get back to normal. But bit by bit, there was change.
I started to desire sex more. I started craving it. I would start to have random sexual thoughts. Then I would get erections after my random sexual thoughts. This could be anywhere. At work, at a restaurant, on the bus – anywhere. As I continued to refrain from sexual stimulation, erections would come more easily and last longer. Morning erections would be stronger. I would be horny and feel charged.
Because my dopamine receptors would no longer react to the dopamine as they used to, normal sexual processes would start faltering. One of the first functions to falter, would be the ability to get erections.
In other words, because my brain could no longer get the dopamine it used to, it became more difficult for me to get erections. And I also started losing my sex drive. To learn more about dopamine on Truelibido, please go here. Also, to learn more about my experiences with pornography and masturbation on Truelibido, please go here.
For me, removing these sexual activities from my life had a huge impact on my well-being. It was one of the actions that had the biggest positive impact on my problems with erectile dysfunction and a weak libido.
Should I for the first time today experience erectile dysfunction and weak libido, This would be the number one action I would take. I would stop watching porn, stop masturbating, stop having sex, and stop anything sexual.
By giving my brain a break from any sexual activity whatsoever, I would give the body a chance to recover. This would enable my body to start the process of undoing any harm that might have been done to it from this excessive sexual stimulation. My body would get a chance to rebuild desire for sex and to regain the ability to function normally. If dopamine receptors in my brain had gotten numbed or stopped working, it would start the process of slowly giving life to these receptors again.
It would give the reward system in my brain a chance to get back to normal, to where it would be in the absence of excess sexual stimulation. Instead of draining my libido pretty much every day, I could instead start to build and increase libido.
This abstinence from sexual activities would also turn sexual stimulation into something that was more scarce, something that was not a day-to-day activity. This would slowly change my mindset and not only increase my desire for sex, but probably also provide more appreciation for sex.
One important point to make: I would be very, very disciplined about this abstinence. If I started having urges to have sex or masturbate, I would not give in to the urges. The fact that these urges might appear would in fact be a good sign – it would mean that I was about to start to regain healthy sexual function. I would wait engaging in sex for a while longer to give myself a better chance of recovering.