What on Earth Should I Do Now?
Here I was, in my 20’s and not able to function sexually. I had a problem. A big problem.
I had zero self-confidence. I was lost. My bright outlook on life was shattered to pieces. I wanted to cry.
And it was not only erectile dysfunction that had hit me. My libido was also practically gone. I didn’t think about sex, didn’t have random sexual thoughts and didn’t particularly want to have sex. My sex drive had vanished.
The bizarre thing about this was that it didn’t make any sense to me.
Why would this happen to someone who was in his 20’s, who was relatively athletic, had a normal diet, didn’t smoke, rarely drank alcohol and overall lived a seemingly healthy life?
If I were 86 years old when this happened, it would have been a different story. It would have been easier to understand. But I really had to deal with this in my 20’s??
I was confused. Lost. Sad. And I was angry at the world. Why me?
But bit by bit I got myself together, I accepted that I had two big problems: Erectile dysfunction and a weak libido. I then started thinking about how to recover. What could I possibly do to overcome my problems?
Since I was completely in the dark, I decided that step one was to try to educate myself about my conditions.
I decided I needed to get to the bottom of these conditions. I wanted a full understanding, I needed to understand the root causes of these problems.
If I could understood why these problems were occurring, maybe I could then figure out how to fix myself?
My first port of call was the internet. I started searching and educating myself about erectile dysfunction and libido problems. What were they? Why did they happen? What were the causes of these problems?
There was a lot less information on the web back then than there is today, but I nonetheless found several good articles, research studies, news stories, etc.
And I read every relevant piece I could find.
I spent hours and hours in discussion forums to absorb as much information as I possibly could.
I bought books to learn more. I watched online videos.
I found lots of suggestions and advice. Several sources suggested certain foods to combat these problems, herbal supplements, exercises and other lifestyle changes.
I didn’t know whether this was good or bad advice. But I had no prior knowledge or experience with any of this, so I plunged into it.
My first attempt at solving my problems was to experiment with an herb called Gingko Biloba. I had found a website with glowing recommendations for how this herb could cure erectile dysfunction and give life to a sputtering libido.
I bought a bottle, followed instructions to take 2 capsules a day, but nothing happened. It turned out to be a dead end.
But I continued.
I tried lots of different supplements and herbs, I tried different diets, different exercise regimes, tried to sleep more and better, tried to stress less. Tried a little bit of everything.
I was hoping for a quick fix.
But I didn’t find a quick fix. This quest for a solution to my problems turned out to become the most time-consuming and significant project I had ever undertaken.
However, I refused to give up. I was determined to find a solution.
But, I wasn’t very systematic in how I approached this.
I tried some of this, then some of that, then moved on to something else. In many cases I didn’t try something for long enough or with adequate diligence to see results.
I didn’t keep a record of what I had done, so I often even forgot what I had done in the past.
As a result, I simply didn’t have a lot of success.
However, even though I was not able to find a solution, still I had three very interesting discoveries: One was about a change in diet, one about a hiking vacation, and the third about herbal supplements.
During a period of my life, I had a very unhealthy diet. It consisted of the cheapest cereal and cow’s milk for breakfast, bread with peanup butter for lunch and pasta and pasta source for dinner.
This was more or less what I ate every day for several months. Hardly any fruit, vegetables, nuts or fungi.
I then changed my diet quite drastically to a vegetarian diet which was varied and rich in nutrition.
The second interesting discovery took place when I was on a hiking trip in sunny mountains for a week.
During this trip, I was outside hiking in the sun, got fresh air, ate well, slept well, didn’t stress and enjoyed the company of good friends. Sex was not on my mind at all. I would just hike, eat, chat, sleep and chill – and that was it.
However, towards the middle of the trip I noticed I was getting unusually horny. I started having random sexual thoughts, and sometimes I would get erections.
This was highly, highly unusual!
And when I got erections, they would last for very long.
What was going on? Why would a hike in the mountains make my libido come back to life?
The third interesting discovery came from trying out herbal supplements.
And it might have been slightly easier to get erections.
However, the effects were weak, and by no means enough to help me with my problems. But they were nonetheless interesting discoveries.
Because I couldn’t find anything that worked for me, and because I was dying to have a normal sex-life, I decided it was time to try a pharmaceutical drug.
I had high hopes that this would finally fix my problems.
And it did! The drugs worked like a charm. It was almost a life-saver at the time.
I could hardly believe how well these pharmaceutical drugs worked. I could hardly believe my luck!
My erections were rock hard again!
The drugs worked consistently and didn’t fail to produce erections. I could trust them every time I had sex.
They made me relax and enjoy sex again.
I once again felt like a man. I was tremendously grateful for having found something that took care of my erectile dysfunction problem.
I still didn’t crave sex, I still didn’t think about sex, I still wouldn’t get random erections.
But although the drugs enabled me to have sex, I didn’t like them. I never did. There are three major reasons for this:
Drugs Are Often Not Necessary
Drugs are very often an easy and unnecessary solution. For instance, if you are not able to get an erection normally, there is always a reason for it.
It’s normally because a part of your body or mind is ill. The inability to get an erection is a signal from the body stating that the body (or mind, or both) is out of balance.
Often what the body needs is rest, or for us to stop doing a certain action (or actions).
If we act according to the signals from the body, the body will often sort out the problem itself.
If we don’t listen to the body but rather ignore the signals and continue on, the body is likely to remain in imbalance, and the situation is likely to get even worse.
Drugs Are Imprecise
Drugs are generally very imprecise devices.
Let’s say I want to dig a small hole in the garden for a plant. I could use my hands to dig it, and it would be sufficient. But let’s say I use an enormous excavator to make the hole instead.
I probably removed the dirt I intended to, but probably removed a lot more as well.
In a similar way, drugs tend to treat the intended ailment, but they also normally impact several other functions in the body.
Or put differently, they have several side-effects.
Drugs Only Treat Symptoms
Drugs normally only treat the symptoms, not the underlying cause of the illness.
Therefore, if you use these drugs to get erections, you will often need these drugs to treat the symptoms for the rest of your life. But the problem is still there.
In addition, the drugs may become less and less effective over time because your body builds up resistance towards them.
I try to never take medication or drugs when I am in pain or when I am sick. I want to let my body get a chance to sort out the problem itself.
Therefore, taking a drug before having sex was something I never liked to do – it was something I wish I didn’t have to do.
I also hated the side effects. My face would normally go flashing red and and my vision would get blurred. I often also got a stuffy nose. Sometimes I got headaches.
I really wanted to get off the drugs. I was badly itching to find a way to solve erectile dysfunction without having to take these pharmaceutical drugs.
However, I didn’t find anything else that worked consistently, and I therefore kept taking the drugs.
Then one day..
..after having taken pharmaceutical drugs for a long time, the effect of the drugs started to taper off. The drugs started to become less and less potent.
I had to take higher and higher doses to get the desired effect.
Then the effect from the drugs disappeared.
My body had built up tolerance towards the drugs and they had stopped working. All of a sudden, taking the drugs produced close to no effect in me.
I had nothing now that helped me. Nothing to lean on. It was now impossible for me to have sex.
My world again crumbled to pieces. I felt completely empty.
That was when I decided to try to fix myself from the ground up, no matter the effort. I wanted to be healthy. I wanted to be normal.